If there was ever an image that could accurately describe the powerful hold that pornography holds on men (and women), this is it:
Its one that I stumbled upon in the realms of social media, where I follow of a couple of nerd art groups.
It immediately grabbed me, both on a visceral and spiritual level.
I will speak in generalities here, but I firmly believe I am very close to the mark on this one.
Men cannot stop staring at her. We are at once enraptured and ashamed to be seen looking at her.
We know she is evil, that she is far from good for us.
But we cannot look away.
She is composed to display the utmost in desirability and temptation.
We desire her. We do not even notice the other men she has already enslaved, even though they surround her.
Even within the midst of their bondage, they still seek her out. The "pleasure" is worth the pain.
She calls at men at a deep and instinctual level. There is nothing "rational" about it. Men would give even their very lives and livelihood to be with her.
For women (generally), she enrages and belittles.
- How could a wife even hope to measure up to or compete with her? Her "perfection" only makes another woman's "imperfections" and insecurities more pronounced.
- What kind of men allow themselves to fall for her? How dare these men even consider her, can't they see what she's doing? Is that all men think about???? Its degrading!
- And there are much more important concerns than sex. Bills need to be paid, houses need to be kept, children need to be taken care of. Why can't men focus on those things first????
Notice that the reactions are completely different. Males are "wired" one way, and females are "wired" differently. We act differently, and we think differently.
So it should not be surprising that males cannot think like females. Its not that males don't want to, they're just not wired that way. It's like asking a toaster oven to think or act like a microwave.
No, it makes no "sense" for us (speaking as a man) to desire her. What do we see in her? At our basest, we see a woman who is voluptuously made and, at least the first time around, will offer no excuses why she can't have sex with us. In fact, she will not deny us any kind of sex. Sex without limits, and we will be the center of attention.
She will tell us how wonderful we are (and yes, she will be lying), and we will eat it up.
We will float on a pleasure cruise to our own destruction.
Obviously, this is such a large topic that I will have to serialize this and work in parts, but I plan to address both the Male and the Female aspects, with a focus on the Image of God, of which you need both to have His full Image.
But I will end this with questions, one for the Men (Husbands), and one for the Women (Wives).
Men: We have a deep desire to rescue and defend our women. We'll protect them from the most dangerous of events and conditions, but will we defend them from the day to day mundane events of the day?
Women: It is right that you, as a wife, should be your man's only sexual outlet. However, are you actually prepared to be his only outlet?
We'll address the Men in the next entry.
