"8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world." 1 Peter 5:6-9 ESV
There is a strange question that we like to ask occasionally down here in Texas.
Question: How do you boil a frog?
Answer: Very slowly.
Its a bit absurd, but the logic goes like this: you can't drop a frog in a pot of boiling water, because the frog will just immediately jump out. (Yes, I know you can put a lid on the pot, but just go along with this.)
So how do you boil the frog?
You put the frog in a pot of lukewarm water, and slowly turn up the heat. As the heat is slowly raised, the frog gets cozy and relaxed, even sleepy. His will and strength leave him, so by the time he figures out somethings wrong, he's already being cooked.
Its a funny concept, but there is very serious warning in it: Don't get too comfortable.
As husbands, fathers, and as godly men, its very easy to get too comfortable. And this is Satan's best weapon against us.
Generally speaking, no one wakes up one day and says "Hey, lets ruin my life today." Satan does not normally make someone have an affair, become an alcoholic, become entangled in pornography, or become a drug addict in one day. Godly men are too powerful for that.
So Satan tempts VERY slowly. The picture of the very little bikini at the supermarket checkout. The occasional drink. The little extra pain killer. The co-worker who seems to understand you like no one else does.
Little by little, we feel like we can control ourselves in these situation, and since we are "in control", we can stand a little more, and since this feels good, that must mean that more will feel even better! Bikini-less women, the extra drink, the stronger pain killer, the occasional "harmless" flirt.
These lead into pornography diminishing, or even replacing marital relations, an actual affair, or needing a number of stronger drinks or medications just to get through the day.
Then, one day, you wake up in the boiling pot. A ruined marriage, in jail with a DWI/DUI. And you have to have more of the addiction just to feel numb.
Godly men fall victim to this all of the time. Satan uses our pleasures and desires to pull us down. Pornography (the personal thorn of yours truly) and affairs appeals to the basest of manly nature: sex and power. Substances start off by either numbing pain or increasing feelings of pleasure, but ultimately numb the addict to any feelings of happiness or pleasure.
And Satan has a field day because the Church likes to treat these issues like the elephant in the living room. "Aren't we good Christians because we're not like those people."
But the very sad fact of the matter is that these issues are affecting families in our own churches all of the time. Right now. Even pastors. Because pastors are men too.
None of us men are immune to the temptations and desires the world likes to send our way. It takes other men and Godly wives to help resisting the snares. Even in Genesis 2, God makes this plain when He says "It is not good that you should be alone."
Men, drop the pride, and share the darkest parts of the heart, not only with God, but with your wife, and/or a trusted brother in Christ.
What you do in secret will be brought to the light (I think I've read that somewhere), and no matter how "victimless" it seems, someone is being affected.
PMV